“Trauma is perhaps the most
avoided, ignored, belittled, denied,
misunderstood, and untreated cause
of human suffering.”
Peter Levine, Ph.D., Waking The Tiger
Our Blog Stories Open Doorways
Into Understanding Trauma
What Exactly Is Trauma and
Why Does It Matter?
Understanding the link between trauma and behavior
In surviving trauma and caring for myself through all the devastation it wreaks, perhaps the biggest lesson I’ve learned is that trying to minimize trauma, rationalize it, stigmatize it, and put on a stoic, but, erroneous public face only makes things worse.
Trauma can be understood. Trauma can be managed.
But trauma never completely goes away.
Once I found the courage to attend to my painful feelings deep inside that were demanding my help -- I made the conscious choice to examine my inner messaging and my insecurities, and all the collateral havoc that trauma entails.
I was then able to start to work through the negative impact trauma was having every day in my life and on my relationships.
During the many years I have walked the road to recovery, along the way,
I have discovered a variety of healing modalities, including individual therapy, education courses, books, and meditation.
It was extremely helpful to participate in support groups, to meet people who have had similar experiences, and inspirational life leaders who have helped teach me about self-love and self-respect which are essential virtues for healing which are undermined by unresolved trauma.
I had to make hard choices to confront, reconcile and integrate those things I had long forgotten or had hoped would magically disappear.
Trauma is real. The effects of trauma are long lasting.
They are an indelible part of our story.
I believe it’s important to find ways that help to increase our self-awareness, gather support, and eventually begin healing our inner wounds. There are so many of us that are learning to be the heroes of our own story, who are no longer sitting on the sidelines wondering what happened to them.
If this story resonates with you, please always remember:
You too can heal. You are not alone. You are a survivor.
A Poem Written by Diana Kendros
At its simplest, trauma is an experience that overwhelms our ability to cope.
This might be for any number of reasons like:
• The experience itself was scary, violating, or abusive
• It happened at an early or impressionable age
• It was a repeated event
• It happened alongside other stressful life events
• It reminded the person of past bad experiences
Welcome to survival mode…
We put on a smile and go about our day, none the wiser, and all the more numb.
The truth is, unresolved trauma IS most likely affecting you today.
Traumatizing events can impact our entire life and being--even when there is no physical harm or damage.
The toll for those who have experienced trauma can be high, including a sense of identity, security and dysregulated mood and emotions.
One of the most far-reaching ways that trauma wreaks havoc is in intimate relationships.
It’s in the closeness of an intimate relationship where unresolved trauma can trigger dysregulation of our nervous system—sending us outside of our window of tolerance where we find ourselves reacting in a survival mode of fight, flight, or freeze.
We Have A Window of Tolerance
Neurologically speaking, everyone has a window of tolerance.
This window represents an optimal range of experience where things feel “just right.” Within this window life can be stressful or difficult, but you are still able to cope.
Within this window we are able to thrive and manage our everyday life.
Stress and traumatic experiences can
shrink our window of tolerance.
Mindset Coaching with Diana
Complementary 30-min sessions available (click below)
Mindset Coaching explores our inner dialog, the stories we all tell ourselves, specifically looking at the thoughts, words, and phrases that we use every day to make meaning out of our life.
The thoughts that constantly percolate through our brains reflect our foundational beliefs, our underlying attitudes, and our biases, which determine how we process information, and which create our perspective.
Self-talk defines us. It tells the story of how we see ourselves and the world.
These stories color our perceptions and our relationships.
Mindset Coaching helps to support, reshape, and redefine our perspective to serve us in more positive, productive, and healthy ways.
Adopting a new mindset that focuses on growth and harmony allows us to embrace obstacles that may have felt threatening – struggles, setbacks, criticism.
But from a broader point of view these kinds of challenges can be seen as steps that are necessary for progress.
These new adaptations in our perspective can play a big role in creating a balanced, successful, and happy life.
As always, thanks for reading, and we appreciate all the wonderful comments!
Diana and Jan
Jefferson County Fair
4-H and FFA Fair Auction/Sale
Monday, June 28th, 2021
Dear Jefferson County Fair Supporter,
We hope this letter finds you, your family, and your business well! This last year has presented plenty of challenges along the way. However, it has also shown the perseverance of folks like you stepping up to meet those challenges with adaptive solutions. You should be very proud of yourself and your teams.
While last year’s fair had a different look, you and your business still showed up to help support our youth in a major way! On behalf of the sale committee we would like to say Thank You! Altogether 2020 net sales were an astonishing $77,795. Our sale committee is working to publicize the 2021 sale and recruit additional buyers with the goal of reaching $100,000 raised for the 4-H and FFA youth of Jefferson County. We are hoping to make the auction a community event that is memorable for both buyers and sellers.
This year’s sale will be held Monday evening June 28, 2021 at the Jefferson County Fairgrounds. A free dinner for buyers will be served by the Jefferson County Pork Producers beginning at 5:30PM. The sale will begin at 6:30PM. Like last year the exhibitors’ live animals will NOT be present at the auction. You will be bidding on the “premium” only at the sale. What you bid will be what you pay, with no reimbursement or buyback.
What will be new at the sale this year? Each of our 4-H/FFA clubs ( X clubs total) will be able to sell 1 item through the live auction as a fundraiser for their club. Our hope is this new element gives the clubs a chance to express their creativity while adding a tangible element to the sale. In addition, there will be a silent auction going on throughout the fair at the McCleary building. There will be a variety of items to bid on with proceeds going to benefit the Jefferson Co. Fairboard and 4-H/FFA in Jefferson County.
Finally, if you are unable or wish not to attend this year’s sale in person but would still like to bid on a project, we have a couple options. We would be happy to take order bids for specific exhibitors, specific species, or simply specific amounts. If you have a set amount you’d like to spend (ex: $200) but feel it may not be enough to purchase an item in full, we would be happy to work with other supporters to allow you to combine funds and make a purchase. We’re hopeful these options allow you to support the youth of the county at the level with which you have the most comfort.
If you have any questions about this year’s sale or would like to make a bid, please contact one of the committee members below. We look forward to making this year’s auction the most memorable yet.
Please visit the Greater Jefferson County Fair website.
July 30th and July 31st, 2021
Participating Businesses in Fairfield
Fairfield’s Annual Sidewalk Sale Days, known as Fiesta Days, returns to Fairfield July 30-31. The event which dates back to the 1960s (at least), is the town’s premier sidewalk sales event. Shop local stores and restaurants for summer deals! Stores will be open both days, 9 am – 6 pm. Check individual businesses for special extended hours. Store and restaurant specials and other details will be posted on Facebook. Make plans to shop Fairfield’s Fiesta Days! Sponsored by the Fairfield Area Chamber of Commerce’s Retail and Restaurant Committee.
Browns Shoe Fit
Cedar Valley Winery
Frontline Print & Web
Greater Habitat for Humanity Restore
Hannah Banana Creations
Health & Wholeness
Jamuna Crafts Collection
Revelations Cafe & Bookstore
Stuff A Bear And More
Sweet 'N Saucy
Terra Natural Designs
The Dairy Bar
The Well Fairfield
Too Good 2 Be Threw
Volition Skate Company
Quality Quick Stop
Please check back for an updated list of participants, or visit the Chamber's Facebook page.
Iowan of the Day
Iowa State Fair
Nomination Deadline - Postmarked by July 1st, 2021
Each year the Iowa State Fair Blue Ribbon Foundation and Cookies Food Products collaborate to honor 10 outstanding Iowans. We look for citizens across the state with a strong work ethic, active involvement in their community, and drive to improve the great state of Iowa. Since 1997, Iowans have been recognized at the Iowa State Fair and your help is needed to continue this tradition!
Wouldn’t it be rewarding to recognize one of your community’s dedicated citizens with a fun-filled Iowa State Fair package?
Iowan of the Day winners receive:
Additional nomination forms are available at www.BlueRibbonFoundation.org/IOTD!
All Iowan of the Day nominations must be postmarked by July 1st, 2021.
Revisiting Fairfield Go Green Plan
Sierra Club of Southeast Iowa
Tuesday, June 22nd, 2021
12pm via Zoom
Join the Fairfield Area Chamber of Commerce for a Lunch and Learn Series session over the lunch hour on Tuesday, June 22nd at 12pm. This Lunch and Learn will feature the Sierra Club of Southeast Iowa. Please welcome Ken Ross and Mark Dwyer of the Sierra Club of Southeast Iowa as they discuss the Fairfield Go Green Plan.
This Lunch and Learn Series will be held online via Zoom. Please see Zoom details below.
Join Zoom Meeting
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For more information about the Sierra Club of Southeast Iowa, please visit:
"The Doctor said I wasn't having a Heart Attack - I was Suffering from a Broken Heart"
WHAT IS CORTISOL?
Think of cortisol as nature’s built-in alarm system. It’s your body’s main stress hormone. It works with certain parts of your brain to control your mood, motivation, and fear.
Your adrenal glands -- triangle-shaped organs at the top of your kidneys -- make cortisol.
It’s best known for helping fuel your body’s “fight-or-flight” instinct in a crisis, but cortisol plays an important role in a number of things your body does.
HOW DOES IT WORK?
CORTISOL'S CONNECTION TO TRAUMA
Too much cortisol symptoms include:
Learn more about Cortisol and Trauma - click here
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Business After Hours
Habitat for Humanity ReStore
Tuesday, June 15th, 2021
4:30pm - 6:30pm
Join us for Business After Hours at Habitat for Humanity ReStore! The ReStore is excited to host a live, in-person Business After Hours for attendees to enjoy. Come learn about the ReStore and how crucial it is to the success of the Greater Fairfield Area Habitat for Humanity! Savor a glass of wine and excellent appetizers from Sweet 'n Saucy and come learn what the ReStore is about; feel free to roam the store, spread the word about it and consider donations to it. We hope to see you there!
Greater Fairfield Area Habitat for Humanity is dedicated to eliminating substandard housing locally and worldwide through constructing, rehabilitating and preserving homes; by advocating for fair and just housing policies; and by providing training and access to resources to help families improve their shelter conditions.
Greater Fairfield Area Habitat for Humanity ReStore is located at 1903 Hwy 34 Business in Fairfield.
The Chamber Business After Hours is a free, monthly networking event open to Chamber Members, their guests and the general public. If you are interested in hosting a Business After Hours, please contact the Chamber at 641-472-2111 or by email at Info@FairfieldIowa.com.
Free Fishing Weekend
June 4th - 6th
Lots of people caught the excitement of fishing last summer. It's easy to join the fun!
Free fishing weekend (June 4-6) is a great time to learn how to fish, take your family fishing, or introduce a friend to fishing. Outdoor fun awaits at hundreds of Iowa lakes, thousands of miles of rivers or a neighborhood pond.
Here's a few tips for a fantastic fishing weekend.